The Bad Side of Beauty – Drastic Weight Loss & Surgical Enhancements in the Beauty Community
I’m not one for downer posts but over the recent months, this has been really bugging me and no one knows what I’m talking about when I mention BeautyCrush or Helen MelonLady so I feel a blog post is warranted.
What I’m getting at is weight loss.
YouTube guys/girls are loved by us (usually) because they’re so real. Obviously as they become more well known and become bigger faces in industry they begin to change a little. Everyone changes as they grow up. But the people who watch their videos and support them don’t watch because they’re now super skinny or because they’ve had their boobs done. We support them because they are who they are. Or at least, they were.
It’s quite sad really that normal people, who for years filmed videos, written blog posts and were happy in themselves suddenly find the desire to drop four dress sizes and go under the knife. Would they have done the same if they weren’t feeling pressured by the fact that there’s always someone watching??
Suddenly obsessed with spamming my Instagram wall with her weightloss, gym outfits, meal plans and overall ‘look at me, I’m so skinny now’-ness. Not that she was ever overweight before I might add. The issue I have is that it doesn’t seem like she’s doing it to lead a healthy lifestyle or that she’s doing it to feel better about herself, it feels like a cover up for something much deeper.
Fixating on bits of her body that looked perfectly good before and going through some drastic changes to please who? Herself? Her millions of followers? Her Tumblr says a lot about it too with pictures of perfect women with perfect breasts (often fake) posted most days. Weight loss is weight loss, but adding the surgery makes it overkill.
If the focus is on makeup and cosmetics, then why the boob job? Why do we suddenly hear about them halfway through a tutorial? She tells us ‘I don’t need to wear a bra’. We know. 😐 Why am I constantly being told how imperfect they were before; shamelessly plugging the Vlog channel by talking about post-op updates? And not only that, but she’s going to have all of her teeth corrected now too, because apparently, there’s something (??) wrong with them. (How to gain confidence? – Get a boob job?)
And I get it, I really do. Being any less than perfect when you’re photographed everyday and noticed by young girls in the street can be hard on you especially when some of those girls hang on your every word. And I get that a lot of us feel like we need a bit of self improvement and it can make us feel a lot better in ourselves. But these YouTube personalities are role models whether they like it or not. For girls like me who follow all of them of Facebook, Instagram, Twitter etc. etc. to have nothing but a news feed full of barely there meals and barely there bodies, it’s depressing. And the saddest part is that these YouTube personalities are still so young themselves. I don’t think any of them are over 24…..
I’m not judging anyone because of course, if you’re old enough and it’s 100% your decision (regarding surgery) then go for it…. I’m just wondering about the effects these things have on young or easily influenced viewers (under 18). We already have magazines and pictures of perfect people everywhere, do we really need the ‘ordinary’ people doing it too? Or is it just that? Are they also overly influenced by the media portrayed images of perfection and beauty?
It’s not just these three either. Helen MelonLady, ShirleyBEniang and BritPopPrincess have all jumped on the ‘I have to be perfect’ bandwagon. Admittedly, BritPopPrincess hasn’t done that so much recently because she realised it was more about embracing what you have than coveting the things you don’t but for the rest of them, it must be so exhausting! (Read BritPopPrincess’s ‘No Body’s Perfect’ post here.) We’re not quite at a size zero epidemic but it seems to me that we’re slowly getting there. But this time it’s not some distant model being used, someone that we can’t relate to, just a picture in a magazine; it’s that everyday girl, a Sammi or a Shannon… she could be anyone of us, and now she’s nothing like anyone we ever were or could possibly be. They’re setting the standards but they’re setting them way too high.
I just wish these girls would realise that the reason they have so many followers is because we love them just the way they are (Bridget Jones reference). Everyone changes bits about their outward appearance from time to time but it’s the drastic changes in weight and appearance, the nips, tucks and tweaks that are just so off putting and unnecessary.